this is a common misconception but if you know anyone who has gone through something like this, you know about the trauma. You have to think through how this damages the child's relationships with his own parents, female peers, future sexual partners, other teachers and community members. It would be a lot of stools to kick out from under an adult, let alone a child. It's not really very cool and it typically does actually require lots of grooming, lies, deceit and sometimes threats and dramatic false dilemmas.