There is no question that being unattractive is a massive handicap, and that attractive people are living life on a kind of easy mode.

But research into dating patterns reveals that men are much less choosy when it comes to romantic/sexual partners than women tend to be, and that there are a much larger quotient of invisibly unattractive men than there are women.

https://www.stevestewartwilliams.com/p/how-men-and-women-rate-each-other

This is just one piece, but the data is overwhelming on this matter - women seem to view 80% of men as being less than average in attractiveness. If that seems like it doesn't make any fuckin sense, then you are correct: women have such a bizarre skew on male attractiveness that it flies in the face of normal distribution patterns.

Men on the other hand tend to rate women on a more or less perfect bell curve of attractiveness, with about 20% of women being at the bottom 20%, most around average, and the top 20% in attractiveness making up about 20% of all women.

You might note that taking these results directly from dating apps is a kind of skewed way of doing things but I'd argue that dating apps are doing the skewing in the dating market.