Stephen Marche writes that men are largely absent from the conversation. He notes that “the only way out of the intractable problems of gender — harassment, the pay gap — will involve robust male participation.”

It’s not a mystery why men are absent from the conversation. Any man who deigns to speak on a subject will inevitably be told to take a seat, or perhaps they’ll be told they’re mansplaining, or maybe they’ll even be told that their particular case of abuse, rape, molestation or assault is irrelevant. When women are told their views are unwelcome, unnecessary or irrelevant by sheer dint of THEIR gender, it’s a slam-dunk case of being sexist, wrong and abhorrent.

That knife seemingly does not cut both ways. Men with the misfortune of piping up about their problems usually regret it, and other men absolutely notice how they’re treated.

“Metoo,
but ew,
not you.”